One Math Problem

It seems like nothing, doesn't it?  One math problem.  How could one math problem possibly change the outcome of a family's evening so drastically?  We completed homework today in the late morning.  It was the perfect time:  no deadlines, peak potential for a meltdown-free process, maximum concentration.  We struggled to begin the work; overcoming inertia is often half of the challenge.  With amazing cooperation on the part of father and son, with excellent support from little brother, the homework is completed with minimal fuss.  Fantastic!
At 7:55, while the boys are watching a reward episode of Phineas and Ferb for a truly Zen haircutting experience, I give all of our Monday morning items a final once-over.  What do I find?  One math problem, undone.  A journal-style question at the bottom of the math page.  I want to weep the instant I see it.  Why, you ask?  Why would I possibly destroy that peace over one math problem?  Because we must.  Because we do our homework, all of it, no matter what.  Cause and effect is one of the mighty weapons we use to combat the perils of autism.  We understand that actions have consequences, and there is no room for, "maybe next time".  And so, we turn off the TV and we begin again.  An hour later, everyone is in tears and someone has screamed an "I hate you" that they will go to sleep regretting.  We hug and kiss and say "good night", and I lean against the closed door, drained.  Someday, this lesson will be worth it.  He will take this moment, with so many others, and build a scaffolding of experiences that help him live a strong, independent life.  Someday, this will be worth it. 

But not today.